Unexpected places

I have been absent from my blog, as well as your blogs, for some time.

I am spring cleaning heart and home~

oh, and the computer files, too, where I found the first WordPress post I wrote, almost three years ago. I did not publish it at the time  but, considering the topic, now seems the right moment to  give it an airing.


“This year, in August 2012, we celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary.  The weather was perfect and the magnolias were in full bloom. ”

Magnolia Time

Magnolia Time 2012


Next week, we will mark our 33rd wedding anniversary. Hopefully the weather will be perfect again and the magnolias will be as beautiful as they were today.

Magnolia ` at home, August 2015

Magnolia, in soft focus, at home, August 2015

When I was a child I imagined  ( a little) what marriage might mean for me. However, even in my wildest, most outlandish imaginings, I did not foresee an hilariously unconventional wedding in Botswana,

Cutting the Cake, 1982

Cutting the Cake, 1982

and a future 33 years later in New Zealand.

Life and marriage take us to some odd and unexpected places, as some  millions of  users of Ashley Madison are suddenly figuring out. http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/gadgets-and-tech/news/ashley-madison-life-on-the-internet-after-the-adultery-website-hack-will-never-be-the-same-10464950.html  Whilst the number of people searching for affairs is disturbing in itself, also disturbing ( to my mind) is the small group of email addresses linked to New Zealand Government agencies responsible for confidential, private files. If the addresses prove genuine, then I will be worried about our Government’s ability to employ people who are a) honest and b) sensible enough to protect the  personal data we, the citizens, are  constantly obliged to offer the Government.  ( And, of course, in addition  to my  concerns, I am feeling sad for all the innocent people and families caught up in this debacle. )

Whether in a relationship or not, may your days be blessed.


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198 thoughts on “Unexpected places

  1. Pingback: August Magnolias | Visual Fling

  2. Marisa @missmarzipan.com

    Wasn’t that scandal outrageous? Or rather that people went onto that site in the first place. I don’t understand it, anyway. And congratulations to you on your amazing marriage that has spanned decades and continents! Lovely! Best wishes to you both x

    1. Gallivanta Post author

      Thankfully the scandal seems to have died down, though maybe not for those who were involved. It is amazing to realize how long we have been married. Sadly, the couple who were our witnesses as well as our very good friends, divorced a few years after our marriage. They have since had happy second marriages so that is good.

        1. Marisa @missmarzipan.com

          It was and has been, thank you 🙂 Celebrating with families and friends in both hemispheres was the reason, of course, but we are so lucky to have had the chance to celebrate twice… and in two very different ways (one quite traditional white wedding and a big party wedding with tapas, a salsa band and candy bar!)

        2. Gallivanta Post author

          Perfect. 🙂 🙂 We didn’t have two weddings but we had two parties. One small one on the day itself and a few days later a big open house party which turned into an open street/village/town party. Seriously I have no idea who half the people were who turned up. It was a lot of fun.

  3. Wendy L. Macdonald

    Beautiful cutting of the cake and magnolia pictures. Nice to see your marriage is still in full bloom. I imagine the cheaters who used the awfulness website have experienced a full BOOM of theirs. Good spouses and good marriages are blessings to be treasured.
    Congratulations ~ Wendy

  4. Brenda Davis Harsham

    Happy Anniversary (a bit late), and I hope the magnolias did not disappoint. The whole existence of Ashley Madison is disturbing, with its tentacles everywhere, but the hack is troubling, too. I hadn’t heard it reached all the way to NZ. What a crazy world we live in.

    1. Gallivanta Post author

      Thank you, Brenda. The magnolias were splendid. A heavy frost finished them off early in the week but now we have the beautiful michelia to gaze upon. It makes a nice change to the TV news we gaze upon, including the latest news on the Ashley Madison debacle. 🙂


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